Some people may argue that The Bachelor Australia‘s Matty J isn’t qualified to give dating advice. After all, he didn’t win the last season of The Bachelorette, he was a runner-up.
Well, to that we say fooey.
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He very nearly stole Georgia Love’s heart, and in the process pretty much swept the nation off its feet.
We caught up with the man himself to tap his brain for some dating advice, and to see if we could squeeze any info out of him ahead of this season.
Would you consider moving to Melbourne for love?
“I was very open to the prospect of potentially moving to a city outside of Sydney, which is the most I can tell you.
“Whilst I wouldn’t rule out moving somewhere else outside of Sydney, I also really like Sydney.
“I may be a little biased here, but I do think Sydney is one of the best cities, closely followed by Melbourne.” – Editor’s note: Nice save, Matty.
Describe your perfect Melbourne date:
“One thing that I loved to do when I was there last time was, I hired a bike near Albert Park and rode down to St Kilda.
“This is going to be super cliché, and you might think it’s super boring, but I went from St Kilda and on to Luna Park and then just had dinner down on the beach in St Kilda.
“To me, that is kind of like the perfect date.”
What should we do on a first date?
“I think there is probably a lack of old school manners [on first dates] and what I mean by that is: opening a door for somebody when you get to a door, allowing the woman to enter first.
“And I kind of think that old school behaviour kind of lacks in this day and age.
“I think when you do it, it does take people by surprise.”
What shouldn’t we do on a first date?
“In terms of what you shouldn’t do on a date, I think talking about income should definitely be avoided.
“I think going into detail about your ex is also a topic you shouldn’t really touch upon too.
How can a guy approach a girl in a bar (without being creepy)?
“Approaching a stranger in a bar is one of the most nerve-wracking things to do.
“It’s something I don’t really feel comfortable doing. There have been circumstances where I saw someone who I thought was really pretty and I’d really love to go up and say ‘hi’, and I just didn’t have the guts to do it.”
“I would definitely recommend a simple smile and saying ‘hi’ is the best approach, instead of trying to come in with drinks or do a pick up line or something like that.”
What do you think of Tinder?
“I think the popularity of things like dating apps, it’s a bit of a double-edged sword really.
“On one aspect, it allows you to meet people you wouldn’t normally be introduced to. And I know a lot of people who have met their partner on a dating app who are now engaged or married.
“But at the same time, I also think it makes relationships so disposable. You can find someone you click with and then hit a rocky patch and so quickly discard them because you know you can just jump on an app and find somebody else moments later.
“I think dating apps make us not invested as much as we should be in terms of the relationships that we have in front of us.” – Editor’s note: Truth. So much truth.
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